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söndag 15 mars 2009
fredag 13 mars 2009
Pics!
Finally some pics! (See more on Mariel's Facebook page.)
Mona, Mariel's mom, and Talila
David, Mariel's older brother & Talila
Mariel's younger sister Victoria with Talila
Super-Baby with her Dad
Talila in comfort
Mona, Mariel's mom, and Talila
David, Mariel's older brother & Talila
Mariel's younger sister Victoria with Talila
Super-Baby with her Dad
Talila in comfortsöndag 8 mars 2009
Cool!
10:50 pm
Today i biked with Talila for the first time! We were invited to some friends for dinner today, another family with 2 small children with another coming any day now. So on the spur of the moment, i thought, hey, let's bike there! They live about 20 minutes away by bike. So we did. I put T in the sling, zipped up my jacket and off we went. No problem, she slept the whole way.
It was pretty neat when we arrived there, 'cause we could show them first-hand about Natural Infant Hygiene. Talila soon woke up after the bike ride and i held her over the bathroom sink, said "psss" and she peed! Our hosts were impressed.
Cool nr 3: Just 2 hours ago i caught my first poop!
It's been pretty easy to catch certain pees but i have felt alot less sure about the poops.
Well, Talila was lying on my lap lengthwise, and then she started flailing with her arms and legs just a little more than usual. It suddenly occurred to me that she may need to poop. Whipped out the little bowl we have for this, held her in position and gave the cueing "Psss" sound. Nothing. Put her back on the diaper on my lap. Very soon i once again had the feeling "She's gonna poop!" It was quite strong this time although i couldn't explain how or why. I pulled out the bowl etc and lo and behold: she did a number 2! Cool!
Talila got a new dress from a friend yesterday: here is how it looks, together with some other pics taken with my webcam just now. (Other more proper pics are in the works, Mariel is working on transferring to her computer right now.)
Talila likes looking at lights...
Today i biked with Talila for the first time! We were invited to some friends for dinner today, another family with 2 small children with another coming any day now. So on the spur of the moment, i thought, hey, let's bike there! They live about 20 minutes away by bike. So we did. I put T in the sling, zipped up my jacket and off we went. No problem, she slept the whole way.
It was pretty neat when we arrived there, 'cause we could show them first-hand about Natural Infant Hygiene. Talila soon woke up after the bike ride and i held her over the bathroom sink, said "psss" and she peed! Our hosts were impressed.
Cool nr 3: Just 2 hours ago i caught my first poop!
It's been pretty easy to catch certain pees but i have felt alot less sure about the poops.
Well, Talila was lying on my lap lengthwise, and then she started flailing with her arms and legs just a little more than usual. It suddenly occurred to me that she may need to poop. Whipped out the little bowl we have for this, held her in position and gave the cueing "Psss" sound. Nothing. Put her back on the diaper on my lap. Very soon i once again had the feeling "She's gonna poop!" It was quite strong this time although i couldn't explain how or why. I pulled out the bowl etc and lo and behold: she did a number 2! Cool!
Talila got a new dress from a friend yesterday: here is how it looks, together with some other pics taken with my webcam just now. (Other more proper pics are in the works, Mariel is working on transferring to her computer right now.)
Talila likes looking at lights...
fredag 6 mars 2009
Trial
2 am
Here i am up in the middle of the night. I can't sleep. Not because of Talila. Just a strange restlessness in the body.
Tough night last night, i woke up around five times, every time Talila stirred and/or grunted, let alone cried. And especially the last time just couldn't fall back asleep. Woke up feeling like a zombie with zero energy. I gradually came around, thanks in part to coffee.
We went into town later, Mariel had an appointment for therapeutic massage and i went along to take care of Talila in the hope that she wouldn't want to nurse then. As it turned out, she slept the whole time - i had her in the carrying shawl for an hour walking around the area putting up posters for the coming Heart Dance and even doing a big shopping. I was at a Konsum store where you register your purchase yourself with a laser scanner. It was only the second time i did this and i was worried Talila would wake up in the middle of it. But it all went really well.
So the day was fine.
But it was a real ordeal for me during the evening. We started watching a movie ("Slumdog Millionaire", well done though certain parts quite shocking) but Talila was pretty restless, crying for long bouts without us knowing what to do. She didn't want to nurse and she looked tired so that's usually a sign to put her in the carrying sling and bounce her around till she falls asleep.
We discovered recently that by holding her quite tightly against our bodies, she can calm down pretty quickly. Mariel's back is in bad shape so it was up to me this time to put her in the sling and do my best. Only this time it didn't work. Piercing crying going into my brain marrow. Ran downstairs holding her mouth in desparation trying to find my earplugs. Put them in and then literally ran loops around the staircase, bounce her and holding her tight. No go, no stop to the crying. Started singing "Sov du lilla vide ung" and that made her calm down but only for about 5 minutes when she started up again. At my wits end, i pulled her out of the sling and just held her lightly with just her lower torso in contact with me. That fixed it and she fell asleep. I went back upstairs to try to see more of the movie. She woke up after 10 minutes. More crying. Over to Mariel when she finally quieted down to some nursing. I just felt totally numb inside, a bit traumatized. This was really at the limit of endurance for me.
Resurgent feelings of inadequacy, weakness, failure. God, how do people manage this? I look with utter incredulity and amazement at Mariel who seems to be able to deal with this day after day with no end in sight with pretty much good cheer. I definitely need to find some support group for new fathers...
Here i am up in the middle of the night. I can't sleep. Not because of Talila. Just a strange restlessness in the body.
Tough night last night, i woke up around five times, every time Talila stirred and/or grunted, let alone cried. And especially the last time just couldn't fall back asleep. Woke up feeling like a zombie with zero energy. I gradually came around, thanks in part to coffee.
We went into town later, Mariel had an appointment for therapeutic massage and i went along to take care of Talila in the hope that she wouldn't want to nurse then. As it turned out, she slept the whole time - i had her in the carrying shawl for an hour walking around the area putting up posters for the coming Heart Dance and even doing a big shopping. I was at a Konsum store where you register your purchase yourself with a laser scanner. It was only the second time i did this and i was worried Talila would wake up in the middle of it. But it all went really well.
So the day was fine.
But it was a real ordeal for me during the evening. We started watching a movie ("Slumdog Millionaire", well done though certain parts quite shocking) but Talila was pretty restless, crying for long bouts without us knowing what to do. She didn't want to nurse and she looked tired so that's usually a sign to put her in the carrying sling and bounce her around till she falls asleep.
We discovered recently that by holding her quite tightly against our bodies, she can calm down pretty quickly. Mariel's back is in bad shape so it was up to me this time to put her in the sling and do my best. Only this time it didn't work. Piercing crying going into my brain marrow. Ran downstairs holding her mouth in desparation trying to find my earplugs. Put them in and then literally ran loops around the staircase, bounce her and holding her tight. No go, no stop to the crying. Started singing "Sov du lilla vide ung" and that made her calm down but only for about 5 minutes when she started up again. At my wits end, i pulled her out of the sling and just held her lightly with just her lower torso in contact with me. That fixed it and she fell asleep. I went back upstairs to try to see more of the movie. She woke up after 10 minutes. More crying. Over to Mariel when she finally quieted down to some nursing. I just felt totally numb inside, a bit traumatized. This was really at the limit of endurance for me.
Resurgent feelings of inadequacy, weakness, failure. God, how do people manage this? I look with utter incredulity and amazement at Mariel who seems to be able to deal with this day after day with no end in sight with pretty much good cheer. I definitely need to find some support group for new fathers...
tisdag 3 mars 2009
Suffering, the end of suffering and sneezes
11:45 pm
Last night was a real ordeal for mig internally.
Talila started crying in the night and - i just couldn't deal with it. I moved to the guestroom. That could have been the end of it. But i was tormented by thoughts of how i was copping out, jumping ship leaving Mariel behind, that i was so weak and not fit to be a father. What was wrong with me? Etc. etc. Ad nauseum. I felt i was really sinking into a hellish state. Quite heavy to say the least. At the time, my rescue came from focusing on my breathing, bringing me to the now, away from the thoughts. And i soon fell asleep.
Today, i was in a pretty bad mood all morning, with the thoughts of self-loathing hovering around me. Then i suddenly remebered that, hey, they're ONLY THOUGHTS! They have no power to hurt me unless i believe in them as Truth.
"I am a total loser father."
How does it feel to believe such a thought? Pretty awful, i can tell you.
Even all these 'should' thoughts: "I should be more relaxed," or "I should be able to handle disturbed sleep better." They just create anxiety if i take the thoughts as true.
But if i just see that i am as i am, neither a winner nor a loser, neither better nor worse, and just see these thoughts and ideas as, well, just thoughts and ideas, then there is simply no problem anymore. This has been a real insight for me.
---
On a lighter note, Talila is so cute when she sneezes. They always come at least two in quick succession. Then afterwards she makes this totally adorable baby-cooing sound. She hasn't really started "talking" baby-gibberish yet. It's mostly grunts and wheezes and crying so far. But when she is content, she is just totally silent looking around with big wide eyes.
She often likes to look off to the upper left or right when you hold her. It looks as though something's got her attention, but when you then change angles so that she would be looking straight at whatever it could be, she only follows it for an instant then it's back to looking to the upper left (or right). Strange...
Mariel notes that she is much more observant of impending pees and poops when she holds Talila without a diaper or towel. She says that she often gets the excretement signals in time but can be a bit lax if Talila has a diaper or towel under her. So she is now taking the big step of really trusting her instincts and Talila's signals and really having her diaper-free. At least daytime.
Okay time for beddy-bye!
Last night was a real ordeal for mig internally.
Talila started crying in the night and - i just couldn't deal with it. I moved to the guestroom. That could have been the end of it. But i was tormented by thoughts of how i was copping out, jumping ship leaving Mariel behind, that i was so weak and not fit to be a father. What was wrong with me? Etc. etc. Ad nauseum. I felt i was really sinking into a hellish state. Quite heavy to say the least. At the time, my rescue came from focusing on my breathing, bringing me to the now, away from the thoughts. And i soon fell asleep.
Today, i was in a pretty bad mood all morning, with the thoughts of self-loathing hovering around me. Then i suddenly remebered that, hey, they're ONLY THOUGHTS! They have no power to hurt me unless i believe in them as Truth.
"I am a total loser father."
How does it feel to believe such a thought? Pretty awful, i can tell you.
Even all these 'should' thoughts: "I should be more relaxed," or "I should be able to handle disturbed sleep better." They just create anxiety if i take the thoughts as true.
But if i just see that i am as i am, neither a winner nor a loser, neither better nor worse, and just see these thoughts and ideas as, well, just thoughts and ideas, then there is simply no problem anymore. This has been a real insight for me.
---
On a lighter note, Talila is so cute when she sneezes. They always come at least two in quick succession. Then afterwards she makes this totally adorable baby-cooing sound. She hasn't really started "talking" baby-gibberish yet. It's mostly grunts and wheezes and crying so far. But when she is content, she is just totally silent looking around with big wide eyes.
She often likes to look off to the upper left or right when you hold her. It looks as though something's got her attention, but when you then change angles so that she would be looking straight at whatever it could be, she only follows it for an instant then it's back to looking to the upper left (or right). Strange...
Mariel notes that she is much more observant of impending pees and poops when she holds Talila without a diaper or towel. She says that she often gets the excretement signals in time but can be a bit lax if Talila has a diaper or towel under her. So she is now taking the big step of really trusting her instincts and Talila's signals and really having her diaper-free. At least daytime.
Okay time for beddy-bye!
söndag 1 mars 2009
1 month old! Time flies...
7:45 pm
Hi everybody!
Haven't written for a while because Mariel and Talila went up to Dalarna on Friday, will come home tomorrow morning. So it's been quite calm and quiet here.
But she had her 1 month old birthday yesterday! She's a big baby now! She is so incredibly cute and pudgy - and she has a hobbit gene: her ears are furry!
Well, not furry but a little hairy on the edges. :-)
People are starting to ask to see her, so soon i'd like to have friends over....
We have borrowed a big wooden crib and a whole bunch of smaller cloth diapers from some neighbor-friends. Great! Though we can't see much use for the crib for now. We just want to keep her close to us as much as we can. She sleeps in our bed between us, handy for Mariel to nurse when Talila wakes up and wants to eat.
I must say Mariel is so naturally patient, loving and present with Talila: an ideal mommy!
When i get poop or pee on my clothes when holding her i can sometimes get a tad peeved but Mariel is always completely relaxed, laughs and says "My that was a big one!" or something like that.
Over and out.
Hi everybody!
Haven't written for a while because Mariel and Talila went up to Dalarna on Friday, will come home tomorrow morning. So it's been quite calm and quiet here.
But she had her 1 month old birthday yesterday! She's a big baby now! She is so incredibly cute and pudgy - and she has a hobbit gene: her ears are furry!
Well, not furry but a little hairy on the edges. :-)
People are starting to ask to see her, so soon i'd like to have friends over....
We have borrowed a big wooden crib and a whole bunch of smaller cloth diapers from some neighbor-friends. Great! Though we can't see much use for the crib for now. We just want to keep her close to us as much as we can. She sleeps in our bed between us, handy for Mariel to nurse when Talila wakes up and wants to eat.
I must say Mariel is so naturally patient, loving and present with Talila: an ideal mommy!
When i get poop or pee on my clothes when holding her i can sometimes get a tad peeved but Mariel is always completely relaxed, laughs and says "My that was a big one!" or something like that.
Over and out.
onsdag 25 februari 2009
4 weeks old!
kl 2:20
Today Talila is 4 weeks old!
She was at her checkup yesterday and she's gone up 700 g since birth, so now she weighs 4.825 kg. She's a healthy bouncing baby!
Today Talila is 4 weeks old!
She was at her checkup yesterday and she's gone up 700 g since birth, so now she weighs 4.825 kg. She's a healthy bouncing baby!
You have to watch your mouth
11:15 am
We are communicating with Talila about potty needs as i mentioned earlier. When we notice her peeing or pooping, we say "S-s-s-s-s-s". When she wakes up from a nap or after nursing, we hold her over a small plastic container and say the cueing sound and often enough, she does pee or poop. It's a long-term process and we don't want to have any stress involved but we see that Elimination Communication does work!
A funny thing happened the other day. Talila was just lying in my lap with a towel under her. Mariel was about to say, "So, [something]" but she started with a drawn out "ssssss" and Talila let it all out!
We are communicating with Talila about potty needs as i mentioned earlier. When we notice her peeing or pooping, we say "S-s-s-s-s-s". When she wakes up from a nap or after nursing, we hold her over a small plastic container and say the cueing sound and often enough, she does pee or poop. It's a long-term process and we don't want to have any stress involved but we see that Elimination Communication does work!
A funny thing happened the other day. Talila was just lying in my lap with a towel under her. Mariel was about to say, "So, [something]" but she started with a drawn out "ssssss" and Talila let it all out!
söndag 22 februari 2009
Smiles and "in-arms"
12:35 pm
When i came in this morning to the bedroom (last night spent in the guest room), and greeted Talila, she smiled! Not just a random thing but several times! Oh, my heart just exploded...
I gave her a bath yesterday, started out alright but then she stopped liking it and started crying. Aaaah! The sound was absolutely excrutiating being in the bathroom with tiled walls! Had to just grab her and run out. Next time i'm using earplugs!
Later Talila slid/fell out of Mariels arms onto the floor. Mariel was sitting on the sofa so it wasn't a long distance and she landed on a rug and no damage done, but oyoyoy she screamed like i've never heard her scream before! Like with every cell of her body... She calmed down pretty soon though, consoled with Mommy's breast.
Mariel discovered this fascinating article today about babies of certain Indians in South America:
Babies of the Yequana tribe, far from needing peace and quiet to go to sleep, snoozed blissfully whenever they were tired, while the men, women, or children carrying them danced, ran, walked, shouted, or paddled canoes. Toddlers played together without fighting or arguing, and they obeyed their elders instantly and willingly.
...
Babes in arms almost never cried and, fascinatingly, did not wave their arms, kick, arch their backs, or flex their hands and feet. They sat quietly in their slings or slept on someone's hip — exploding the myth that babies need to flex to "exercise." They also did not throw up unless extremely ill and did not suffer from colic. ... Without supervision, even the smallest tots rarely hurt themselves. ...
How is this possible? The author says its because the Indians carry their babies ALL the time from birth to when they start crawling! Really fascinating. We are buying the book The Continuum Concept and are going to look more into this...
Mariel has just come back from her stroll in the winter wonderland.
Signing off!
When i came in this morning to the bedroom (last night spent in the guest room), and greeted Talila, she smiled! Not just a random thing but several times! Oh, my heart just exploded...
I gave her a bath yesterday, started out alright but then she stopped liking it and started crying. Aaaah! The sound was absolutely excrutiating being in the bathroom with tiled walls! Had to just grab her and run out. Next time i'm using earplugs!
Later Talila slid/fell out of Mariels arms onto the floor. Mariel was sitting on the sofa so it wasn't a long distance and she landed on a rug and no damage done, but oyoyoy she screamed like i've never heard her scream before! Like with every cell of her body... She calmed down pretty soon though, consoled with Mommy's breast.
Mariel discovered this fascinating article today about babies of certain Indians in South America:
Babies of the Yequana tribe, far from needing peace and quiet to go to sleep, snoozed blissfully whenever they were tired, while the men, women, or children carrying them danced, ran, walked, shouted, or paddled canoes. Toddlers played together without fighting or arguing, and they obeyed their elders instantly and willingly.
...
Babes in arms almost never cried and, fascinatingly, did not wave their arms, kick, arch their backs, or flex their hands and feet. They sat quietly in their slings or slept on someone's hip — exploding the myth that babies need to flex to "exercise." They also did not throw up unless extremely ill and did not suffer from colic. ... Without supervision, even the smallest tots rarely hurt themselves. ...
(from www.continuum-concept.org/reading/in-arms.html)
How is this possible? The author says its because the Indians carry their babies ALL the time from birth to when they start crawling! Really fascinating. We are buying the book The Continuum Concept and are going to look more into this...
Mariel has just come back from her stroll in the winter wonderland.
Signing off!
lördag 21 februari 2009
Mommy's ordeal and an auspicious dream...
12:15 pm
Hi everyone!
Yesterday Mariel was completely wiped out. She had a fever and was practically bed-ridden... We think it was due to "caked breast". If the milk glands aren't properly drained, it can lead to pain, swelling and fever. She had it last week, too. But it turns out that it can also be caused if the breasts get cold as well. The previous night we had taken a lo-ong walk on the ice and maybe they got cold then. Fortunately, Talila was pretty calm, slept alot and was not demanding.
I had to leave her to lead Heart Dance in the evening but our beautiful-souled tenants took care of her.
Had a dream this morning...
I was with Mariel and Talila in a room. Mariel left the room and Talila was sleeping. Then she started speaking in her sleep, she started saying parts of mantras like "Om Namo Bhagavate" ("Praise to the Lord" in Sanskrit). I was utterly fascinated, just noting down what she said and listening for more. Then Mariel and a bunch of other people came back noisily and i told them excitedly about, asking them to quiet down so we could hear more. Then i woke up...
It's so cool to see how she is responding more coherently to the outside world. Her legs have always been pretty strong. When she's on one of our bellies and she wants food, she'll start kicking/swimming her way up the chest grunting in fierce determination. But her arms have been pretty much just flailing around at random when she's awake.
But now this morning, i had her on her back on my knees. When i covered her face with a blankett, she could use her hands and arms to move it away. Did it several times. Cool!
She is such a cuty squishy, pudgy pink thing... I just want to eat her up! Babys for breakfast... Yummy yummy! Her little toes as an appetizer...
Hi everyone!
Yesterday Mariel was completely wiped out. She had a fever and was practically bed-ridden... We think it was due to "caked breast". If the milk glands aren't properly drained, it can lead to pain, swelling and fever. She had it last week, too. But it turns out that it can also be caused if the breasts get cold as well. The previous night we had taken a lo-ong walk on the ice and maybe they got cold then. Fortunately, Talila was pretty calm, slept alot and was not demanding.
I had to leave her to lead Heart Dance in the evening but our beautiful-souled tenants took care of her.
Had a dream this morning...
I was with Mariel and Talila in a room. Mariel left the room and Talila was sleeping. Then she started speaking in her sleep, she started saying parts of mantras like "Om Namo Bhagavate" ("Praise to the Lord" in Sanskrit). I was utterly fascinated, just noting down what she said and listening for more. Then Mariel and a bunch of other people came back noisily and i told them excitedly about, asking them to quiet down so we could hear more. Then i woke up...
It's so cool to see how she is responding more coherently to the outside world. Her legs have always been pretty strong. When she's on one of our bellies and she wants food, she'll start kicking/swimming her way up the chest grunting in fierce determination. But her arms have been pretty much just flailing around at random when she's awake.
But now this morning, i had her on her back on my knees. When i covered her face with a blankett, she could use her hands and arms to move it away. Did it several times. Cool!
She is such a cuty squishy, pudgy pink thing... I just want to eat her up! Babys for breakfast... Yummy yummy! Her little toes as an appetizer...
tisdag 17 februari 2009
No title
10:25 pm
I know that you would really like to hear from Mariel as well. But her days are pretty much totally filled. She is with Talila 80% of the time. And she really enjoys it! And thank goodness for that! Even if i were able to breast feed Talila, i wouldn't be able to manage the intensity. Mariel has such infinite patience and calm, it's really amazing.
I know that you would really like to hear from Mariel as well. But her days are pretty much totally filled. She is with Talila 80% of the time. And she really enjoys it! And thank goodness for that! Even if i were able to breast feed Talila, i wouldn't be able to manage the intensity. Mariel has such infinite patience and calm, it's really amazing.
söndag 15 februari 2009
WOW! It really works! + FILM
530 pm Dana here
As i wrote earlier, Mariel and I have been seriously looking into Natural Infant Hygiene (or Elimination Communication as it is also known). It's only in the West that we use nappies (sounds much better than "diapers") as long as we do. In the rest of the world, that is, over 80% of the population, children are totally dry with no need of nappies. This is so intriguing!
Sooo...
From the start, whenever we noticed that Talila had peed, we made a "Sssss" sound. When she pooped, we made a "plupluplup" sound. The idea is that the baby will soon *respond* to the cueing sound so we can get a bowl or potty under her first.
For our part, it's been hard to interpret her signals up to now.... In "Diaper-Free Baby", they suggest trying with wake-up pees first and identifying when she usually poops.
Last night, Mariel caught a poop for the first time in a bowl and today, i managed to get her to pee in a bowl no less than three times so far. This really works This is SO COOL!
She had been sleeping all three times and just woken up mildly agitated, ornery. I just felt, "She needs to pee" so i got the bowl, took off her nappy, lifted her in a squatting position over the bowl and said "Tssssss" and lo and behold: she peed!
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Otherwise, i noticed the other day that she has now started following objects with her gaze.
You can see her following the camera on YouTube,
www.youtube.com/watch?v=aeFHv0G478A
i uploaded a film there taken with my web camera two days ago. (Unfortunately, it has been speeded up for some reason.)
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Yesterday was Valentine's day. We had nice quality time, Mariel and i. We even watched a film! Didn't think we would ever have time for that till the baby flew the coop in 18 years. So that was nice to see that it was possible! Talila was mellow the whole time. (We saw "Things We Lost in the Fire" btw, good movie!)
All is well!
As i wrote earlier, Mariel and I have been seriously looking into Natural Infant Hygiene (or Elimination Communication as it is also known). It's only in the West that we use nappies (sounds much better than "diapers") as long as we do. In the rest of the world, that is, over 80% of the population, children are totally dry with no need of nappies. This is so intriguing!
Sooo...
From the start, whenever we noticed that Talila had peed, we made a "Sssss" sound. When she pooped, we made a "plupluplup" sound. The idea is that the baby will soon *respond* to the cueing sound so we can get a bowl or potty under her first.
For our part, it's been hard to interpret her signals up to now.... In "Diaper-Free Baby", they suggest trying with wake-up pees first and identifying when she usually poops.
Last night, Mariel caught a poop for the first time in a bowl and today, i managed to get her to pee in a bowl no less than three times so far. This really works This is SO COOL!
She had been sleeping all three times and just woken up mildly agitated, ornery. I just felt, "She needs to pee" so i got the bowl, took off her nappy, lifted her in a squatting position over the bowl and said "Tssssss" and lo and behold: she peed!
-----
Otherwise, i noticed the other day that she has now started following objects with her gaze.
You can see her following the camera on YouTube,
www.youtube.com/watch?v=aeFHv0G478A
i uploaded a film there taken with my web camera two days ago. (Unfortunately, it has been speeded up for some reason.)
-----
Yesterday was Valentine's day. We had nice quality time, Mariel and i. We even watched a film! Didn't think we would ever have time for that till the baby flew the coop in 18 years. So that was nice to see that it was possible! Talila was mellow the whole time. (We saw "Things We Lost in the Fire" btw, good movie!)
All is well!
torsdag 12 februari 2009
Dairy's a no-no...
12M Dana here
Talila can wake up and want milk during the night and sometimes be up for awhile fidgeting and grunting but it feels pretty natural and okay.
But once last week Mariel drank som hot chocolate with milk in the evening... That night, Talila had a major crying fit that lasted a loong time. She was obviously had tummy pains...
Four days later, Mariel ate some yogurt and again the same story: Talila was in alot of pain that night.
So we have understood now that dairy products are off-limits to Mariel.
Late, time to hit the hay...
Talila can wake up and want milk during the night and sometimes be up for awhile fidgeting and grunting but it feels pretty natural and okay.
But once last week Mariel drank som hot chocolate with milk in the evening... That night, Talila had a major crying fit that lasted a loong time. She was obviously had tummy pains...
Four days later, Mariel ate some yogurt and again the same story: Talila was in alot of pain that night.
So we have understood now that dairy products are off-limits to Mariel.
Late, time to hit the hay...
tisdag 10 februari 2009
Admiration
I admire Mariel from the depths of my soul that she can take these nights as well as she does. She's a bit sleepy during the day and takes naps but - man! It's a whole other thing for me...
Last night Talila was awake 11.45 pm- ?1.30 am. A bit ornery and restless, grunting, and making small noises, crying a bit, getting milk, being quiet for 5 min then start grunting and squirming again. I sang soft tunes for her a couple times and she calmed down but only for a few minutes. I had to leave the room. Hard to not have a bad conscience for leaving Mariel alone with her....
Last night Talila was awake 11.45 pm- ?1.30 am. A bit ornery and restless, grunting, and making small noises, crying a bit, getting milk, being quiet for 5 min then start grunting and squirming again. I sang soft tunes for her a couple times and she calmed down but only for a few minutes. I had to leave the room. Hard to not have a bad conscience for leaving Mariel alone with her....
måndag 9 februari 2009
Our new life
10.45 pm
Dana here.
Our new life is gradually taking shape.
Our day usually begins very late. I often shift over to our guest room in the middle of the night so i am usually up first. I try to do my morning exercises and eat breakfast before Mariel wakes up. When she does, i take care of Talila while she showers and eats breakfast. I sing her my really deep and creative baby songs ("Baby, baby, baby, you're the cutie baby, squishy-wishy, squiggly-wiggly, sweetie baby girl!")
We both like to have her close to us with skin to skin contact. Talila likes it best when she lies on one of our chests, slightly preferably Mommy Mariel, because of her soft pillow breasts. But i'm not far behind! And she likes to suck on my pinky with great vigor.
When she nurses, she often makes these funny little noises that sound like "Help, help!" And then after 5 minutes, starts crying because she swallowed so much air that she has to burp.
Not much more to say, Talila is just absolutely adorable...
Dana here.
Our new life is gradually taking shape.
Our day usually begins very late. I often shift over to our guest room in the middle of the night so i am usually up first. I try to do my morning exercises and eat breakfast before Mariel wakes up. When she does, i take care of Talila while she showers and eats breakfast. I sing her my really deep and creative baby songs ("Baby, baby, baby, you're the cutie baby, squishy-wishy, squiggly-wiggly, sweetie baby girl!")
We both like to have her close to us with skin to skin contact. Talila likes it best when she lies on one of our chests, slightly preferably Mommy Mariel, because of her soft pillow breasts. But i'm not far behind! And she likes to suck on my pinky with great vigor.
When she nurses, she often makes these funny little noises that sound like "Help, help!" And then after 5 minutes, starts crying because she swallowed so much air that she has to burp.
Not much more to say, Talila is just absolutely adorable...
fredag 6 februari 2009
Gratitude
7:15 pm - Dana
I am so thankful to Mariel that in spite of her weakness and tiredness, that she doesn't "throw stuff" on me. I admire her ability to express her needs and desires in a matter-of-fact way without pleading, cajoling, admonishing or jibing etc. It makes things so much easier!
I feel torn between wanting to support her and help her and Talila as much as i can yet i need to work to make money as well....
We had a sharing last night and expressed where we were at and i see that there is a tendency in me to "be anxious for the morrow". It is my big lesson to not worry about the future. To simply do what i can and simply trust in Life/God that things will work out. (They always have looking back!)
Mikaela, Mariel's sister is here for the weekend to hang out and help us a bit. Right now she's carrying the baby - here is a picture i just took with my webcamera. When i asked her if she was getting interested herself, she said yeah.
We finally were instructed in a great way to wrap up Talila in the carrying scarf.
Last night she was awake for four hours at a stretch, from 12M to 4 am. Whew! She's turning our days upside down.
Over and out.
I am so thankful to Mariel that in spite of her weakness and tiredness, that she doesn't "throw stuff" on me. I admire her ability to express her needs and desires in a matter-of-fact way without pleading, cajoling, admonishing or jibing etc. It makes things so much easier!
I feel torn between wanting to support her and help her and Talila as much as i can yet i need to work to make money as well....
We had a sharing last night and expressed where we were at and i see that there is a tendency in me to "be anxious for the morrow". It is my big lesson to not worry about the future. To simply do what i can and simply trust in Life/God that things will work out. (They always have looking back!)
Mikaela, Mariel's sister is here for the weekend to hang out and help us a bit. Right now she's carrying the baby - here is a picture i just took with my webcamera. When i asked her if she was getting interested herself, she said yeah.We finally were instructed in a great way to wrap up Talila in the carrying scarf.
Last night she was awake for four hours at a stretch, from 12M to 4 am. Whew! She's turning our days upside down.
Over and out.
torsdag 5 februari 2009
She has a name!!
10:27 pm
Mariel here...
Well, I don't really take the time to write in the blog regularly, but Dana is doing a good job of it and maybe we will just have to settle for that. I am still recovering from the delivery, wasn't expecting to be this tired afterwards. Dana gets to do (pretty much) all of the household duties, and he is doing a good job of it... Hm, maybe sometimes a bit too good? :-)
She is a darling... She eats really well, sleeps a lot, cries as babies should, and is a great blessing in our lives... And now, what many of you have been waiting for. We have settled on her name and we are both very happy about it... And it is... Talila (Tah-LEE-lah). A twist of the Swahili name Dalilah, which means: gentleness, her soul is tender. And it really is.
Ok, now some quality time with my big habib, because the little habib is in deep slumber...
Mariel here...
Well, I don't really take the time to write in the blog regularly, but Dana is doing a good job of it and maybe we will just have to settle for that. I am still recovering from the delivery, wasn't expecting to be this tired afterwards. Dana gets to do (pretty much) all of the household duties, and he is doing a good job of it... Hm, maybe sometimes a bit too good? :-)
She is a darling... She eats really well, sleeps a lot, cries as babies should, and is a great blessing in our lives... And now, what many of you have been waiting for. We have settled on her name and we are both very happy about it... And it is... Talila (Tah-LEE-lah). A twist of the Swahili name Dalilah, which means: gentleness, her soul is tender. And it really is.
Ok, now some quality time with my big habib, because the little habib is in deep slumber...
onsdag 4 februari 2009
Visit by nurse Karin and diaper-free consciousness
10.45 pm Dana
When i was working as a math teacher at Martinskolan, i had a 7th grade class whose home-room teacher was Karin Lindeberg. Now we've been thrown into a new constellation. Turns out, she left Martinskolan to work at the anthroposophic Vidar clinic as a children's nurse - and she has been assigned to us! She is very sweet and caring, Mariel and i really appreciated her home visit today.
Last summer, i met a woman with a 1½ year old baby who didn't need diapers. I was fascinated by this and i filmed her impromptu lecture on the subject. Our midwife introduced us to the book "Diaper-Free" which is really well-researched. What the consensus is, is that babies have a natural ability to control their elimination. They don't have words of course, but by tuning in to the baby's other modes of communication ( for example, suddenly stopping nursing, grunting or a certain stretching movement) you can catch them in time with a potty.
Gradually the baby can associate certain cuing noises like "sssss" for pee and, well, maybe "Plplp" for poop.
The whole thing is really fascinating so we're tuning in now to Baby's signals...
A name seems to be shaping up. We're going to test it for a few days first. Will let you all know as sooon as we know for sure!
Love to you all,
Dana
PS It is soooo wonderful to feel her little soft body against my chest...
Here is another photo: The angels of Love, Beauty, Serenity and Wisdom watch over Mommy and Baby.
When i was working as a math teacher at Martinskolan, i had a 7th grade class whose home-room teacher was Karin Lindeberg. Now we've been thrown into a new constellation. Turns out, she left Martinskolan to work at the anthroposophic Vidar clinic as a children's nurse - and she has been assigned to us! She is very sweet and caring, Mariel and i really appreciated her home visit today.
Last summer, i met a woman with a 1½ year old baby who didn't need diapers. I was fascinated by this and i filmed her impromptu lecture on the subject. Our midwife introduced us to the book "Diaper-Free" which is really well-researched. What the consensus is, is that babies have a natural ability to control their elimination. They don't have words of course, but by tuning in to the baby's other modes of communication ( for example, suddenly stopping nursing, grunting or a certain stretching movement) you can catch them in time with a potty.
Gradually the baby can associate certain cuing noises like "sssss" for pee and, well, maybe "Plplp" for poop.
The whole thing is really fascinating so we're tuning in now to Baby's signals...
A name seems to be shaping up. We're going to test it for a few days first. Will let you all know as sooon as we know for sure!
Love to you all,
Dana
PS It is soooo wonderful to feel her little soft body against my chest...
Here is another photo: The angels of Love, Beauty, Serenity and Wisdom watch over Mommy and Baby.
tisdag 3 februari 2009
Primeval crawl
10:30 am
Dana here again.
Baby is so funny... I have her on my chest this morning while Mariel goes to the bathroom. She is hungry, so she sets out on a determined quest. There's something amphibian or reptilian about it: Like a little crocodile or lizard, grunting, squeaking, gasping, she slowly but methodically crawls, worms, and drags herself higher and higher up my chest looking for that fountain of youth...
Lo! She finds my little finger and Woah! what a suction she has in that little mouth!
Dana here again.
Baby is so funny... I have her on my chest this morning while Mariel goes to the bathroom. She is hungry, so she sets out on a determined quest. There's something amphibian or reptilian about it: Like a little crocodile or lizard, grunting, squeaking, gasping, she slowly but methodically crawls, worms, and drags herself higher and higher up my chest looking for that fountain of youth...
Lo! She finds my little finger and Woah! what a suction she has in that little mouth!
måndag 2 februari 2009
Första möte med doktorn
4:10 pm
We borrowed a car and drove in to Baby's first doctor's appointment. She's as "healthy as a nut" - as they say here in Sweden(!)
Names, names, names.... Hmmmmmm....
We went online yesterday for some input and were astounded over the wealth of data available. On Not only can you find name suggestions and what they mean in which language, but you can see statistically how many baby's got that name from 1880 onwards (in the US), surveys with people with the name if they like it, if they got bullied in school(!) and much much more!
Check out for example:
http://babynamesworld.parentsconnect.com/suitability_of_Cleopatra.html
We still haven't decided on anything though i have a favorite.... "What is it?" you're all wondering, "Tell us! Tell us!"
Na-a-a-a-a-w...
:-)
We'll have to decide by Feb 4th, otherwise Swedish law says we must go to jail for a year.
Yikes.
We borrowed a car and drove in to Baby's first doctor's appointment. She's as "healthy as a nut" - as they say here in Sweden(!)
Names, names, names.... Hmmmmmm....
We went online yesterday for some input and were astounded over the wealth of data available. On Not only can you find name suggestions and what they mean in which language, but you can see statistically how many baby's got that name from 1880 onwards (in the US), surveys with people with the name if they like it, if they got bullied in school(!) and much much more!
Check out for example:
http://babynamesworld.parentsconnect.com/suitability_of_Cleopatra.html
We still haven't decided on anything though i have a favorite.... "What is it?" you're all wondering, "Tell us! Tell us!"
Na-a-a-a-a-w...
:-)
We'll have to decide by Feb 4th, otherwise Swedish law says we must go to jail for a year.
Yikes.
Mesmerizing contact
9:07 am
Yesterday, Mona (Mariel's mom), Roger (her husband), Vicci (sister) and Joel (brother) came by to admire the little miracle.
It was so cool because Baby was awake and content for almost *20* minutes at a stretch. That beats her old record three times over.
This is what makes it all so worth it, to just look into her eyes of such depth and serenity, everyone is just spellbound...
Okay, off to the last appt with our midwifethe and then the first at the baby clinic!
Love to you all,
Dana
Yesterday, Mona (Mariel's mom), Roger (her husband), Vicci (sister) and Joel (brother) came by to admire the little miracle.
It was so cool because Baby was awake and content for almost *20* minutes at a stretch. That beats her old record three times over.
This is what makes it all so worth it, to just look into her eyes of such depth and serenity, everyone is just spellbound...
Okay, off to the last appt with our midwifethe and then the first at the baby clinic!
Love to you all,
Dana
söndag 1 februari 2009
First words from Mariel
9:54 pm
Dana is pressuring me to write a few words on the blog. So here I am: alive, exhausted and overjoyed to have received our beautiful baby girl (whom we still haven't named yet).
We've gotten so many congratulations and well-wishes and it's a blessing to feel everyone's support.
The delivery was the most intense and demanding experience I've ever been through - and the most rewarding. Dana was a great support, my sister Tara also and the midwife Diane was very competent and relaxed, not at all intrusive, letting my body and its needs run the show, supporting me to relax and breathe through each painful contraction.
Enough for now, I'm tired.
Thanks everyone for being there for us.
Off to bed!
Dana is pressuring me to write a few words on the blog. So here I am: alive, exhausted and overjoyed to have received our beautiful baby girl (whom we still haven't named yet).
We've gotten so many congratulations and well-wishes and it's a blessing to feel everyone's support.
The delivery was the most intense and demanding experience I've ever been through - and the most rewarding. Dana was a great support, my sister Tara also and the midwife Diane was very competent and relaxed, not at all intrusive, letting my body and its needs run the show, supporting me to relax and breathe through each painful contraction.
Enough for now, I'm tired.
Thanks everyone for being there for us.
Off to bed!
Torture
Sun 10.45
It's not the being woken up several times during the night which is the problem. It's having to listen to 10-15 min of pretty much nonstop heart-rending piercing Baby crying before she settles down to nurse or go back to sleep. Mariel seems to be 100 times more able than i to deal with this. Yeah, she's tired and all but she told me herself earlier that somehow it's not that hard for her.
Last night it was simply torture for me and i had to leave the bedroom at 4 am. Feelings of being a failure came up. But it is really too much for me. If i was alone with Baby, i would definitely have to get nighttime help. I would rather be a dedicated servant to Mommy and Baby all my waking hours than have to endure the nights like this. Maybe every third night i could do it...
Phew....
It's not the being woken up several times during the night which is the problem. It's having to listen to 10-15 min of pretty much nonstop heart-rending piercing Baby crying before she settles down to nurse or go back to sleep. Mariel seems to be 100 times more able than i to deal with this. Yeah, she's tired and all but she told me herself earlier that somehow it's not that hard for her.
Last night it was simply torture for me and i had to leave the bedroom at 4 am. Feelings of being a failure came up. But it is really too much for me. If i was alone with Baby, i would definitely have to get nighttime help. I would rather be a dedicated servant to Mommy and Baby all my waking hours than have to endure the nights like this. Maybe every third night i could do it...
Phew....
lördag 31 januari 2009
Baby picture!
* Our darling baby *
one day old - Jan 29, 2009
Isn't she just a cutie-beauty?
More pictures will be added soon...
(The camera battery died just after transferring this one to my PC.)
Breathing... and expleded ideas
1:10 pm
Last night as i lay in bed listening to Baby's breathing while she was awake, i counted that for every one of my breaths, she breathed 9 times! Later when she was asleep, i counted again. This time she breathed 4-5 times for every one of my breaths.
She is so warm and cuddly! It is so nice to feel her body against mine skin to skin. I like carrying her around in the carrying scarf.
I had this idea before that it shouldn't be too hard to get her to stop crying. Just test one after the other: giving her to Mommy's breast, changing her position, hugging, singing, bouncing with her etc. and see what works.
But it ain't that easy... She can be hungry, but then get frustrated when she can't get a good grip on the nipple or for some other reason and start crying heart-rendingly and then you can't really do much till she's calmed down for a new attempt. She's got powerful lungs for a newborn.
She seems to really like it when i sing to her. Several times she's calmed right down when i start singing "Baby, baby, baby, cuty beauty baby" and just making things up as i go along. Have a feeling she is going to be musical when she gets older!
Now it's time for breakfast!
Last night as i lay in bed listening to Baby's breathing while she was awake, i counted that for every one of my breaths, she breathed 9 times! Later when she was asleep, i counted again. This time she breathed 4-5 times for every one of my breaths.
She is so warm and cuddly! It is so nice to feel her body against mine skin to skin. I like carrying her around in the carrying scarf.
I had this idea before that it shouldn't be too hard to get her to stop crying. Just test one after the other: giving her to Mommy's breast, changing her position, hugging, singing, bouncing with her etc. and see what works.
But it ain't that easy... She can be hungry, but then get frustrated when she can't get a good grip on the nipple or for some other reason and start crying heart-rendingly and then you can't really do much till she's calmed down for a new attempt. She's got powerful lungs for a newborn.
She seems to really like it when i sing to her. Several times she's calmed right down when i start singing "Baby, baby, baby, cuty beauty baby" and just making things up as i go along. Have a feeling she is going to be musical when she gets older!
Now it's time for breakfast!
fredag 30 januari 2009
Intense
6:15 pm
It's my hope and wish that Mommy Mariel will start writing here as well. But she is very tired and weak and the baby requires her almost full-time attention. They are sleeping right now, i can't sleep.
They say, "Learn to sleep when the baby sleeps." But it's easier said than done. I seem to be rapidly turning into a zomby. Drank coffee several days in a row and that was a big help but now it's losing it's effect and i don't want to turn into a caffeine junky.
Squiggly-wiggly! We are going to call her Squiggly-Wiggly Hofford Roxendal. Or maybe Cuty-Beauty Hofford Roxendal.
I have Isis, our ethereal cat, in my lap... She is just so present. Even when it was most intense during the delivery, Isis was just sitting or lying down real close to all of us. Totally serene and unperturbed.
I am so tired.
It will probably be a while before we have the energy to post pics...
Sorry about the Swedish layout of the blog. And that you have to become a Google-devotee in order to write comments. I will change blogs again when i get the energy.
It's my hope and wish that Mommy Mariel will start writing here as well. But she is very tired and weak and the baby requires her almost full-time attention. They are sleeping right now, i can't sleep.
They say, "Learn to sleep when the baby sleeps." But it's easier said than done. I seem to be rapidly turning into a zomby. Drank coffee several days in a row and that was a big help but now it's losing it's effect and i don't want to turn into a caffeine junky.
Squiggly-wiggly! We are going to call her Squiggly-Wiggly Hofford Roxendal. Or maybe Cuty-Beauty Hofford Roxendal.
I have Isis, our ethereal cat, in my lap... She is just so present. Even when it was most intense during the delivery, Isis was just sitting or lying down real close to all of us. Totally serene and unperturbed.
I am so tired.
It will probably be a while before we have the energy to post pics...
Sorry about the Swedish layout of the blog. And that you have to become a Google-devotee in order to write comments. I will change blogs again when i get the energy.
Mariel's father came by in the morning a short while and saw the baby.
BTW, she was 50 cm and 4180 g at birth - a big baby!
Mariel's body is pretty out of it. The uterus is pulling itself together and there is some periodic
pain and just general weakness. I'm doing my best to serve her with smoothies and carrots and apples and crackers...
BTW, she was 50 cm and 4180 g at birth - a big baby!
Mariel's body is pretty out of it. The uterus is pulling itself together and there is some periodic
pain and just general weakness. I'm doing my best to serve her with smoothies and carrots and apples and crackers...
torsdag 29 januari 2009
Our little froggy!
Our little darling...
But i don't feel like a Daddy, i'm just me like i've always been, only now there is this baby that just appeared out of nowhere...
She sleeps alot and has now a firm grip on that nipple! When she lies on her back her bent legs stick flat out like a frog. Our little froggy!
We just figured out how to use a carrying scarf, really handy.
Didn't sleep well last night, every time she made sounds, i woke up. But... We Have Been Warned about that! (from time immemorial)
Time to hit the hay...
But i don't feel like a Daddy, i'm just me like i've always been, only now there is this baby that just appeared out of nowhere...
She sleeps alot and has now a firm grip on that nipple! When she lies on her back her bent legs stick flat out like a frog. Our little froggy!
We just figured out how to use a carrying scarf, really handy.
Didn't sleep well last night, every time she made sounds, i woke up. But... We Have Been Warned about that! (from time immemorial)
Time to hit the hay...
onsdag 28 januari 2009
My first lullabye
Mimbani mio
Am G Am
Mimbani mio, silent stars are wandering
Am G Am
Mimbani mio, toward a distant land.
C Am G Am
Way-oway, toward a distant country,
C Am G Am
Way-oway, toward a distant shore.
Mimbani mio, silent stars are wandering
Am G Am
Mimbani mio, toward a distant land.
C Am G Am
Way-oway, toward a distant country,
C Am G Am
Way-oway, toward a distant shore.
Am G Am
Mimbani mio, Mother Moon is watching
Am G Am
Mimbani mio, o’er a silent sky.
C Am G Am
Way-oway, Mother Moon is smiling,
C Am G Am
Way-oway, her heart is at peace.
Am G Am
Mimbani mio, listen to the silence
Am G Am
Mimbani mio, listen to your heart.
C Am G Am
Way-oway, love is all around you,
C Am G Am
Way-oway, love is who you are.
Man, i'm really blown away. This little Buddha girl...
I was holding her in my arms for 30 minutes or so just now. She just looked into my eyes
in utter contentment, just this pure beingness and contentedness. The peace was so tangible, Mariel felt it when she came back into the room. Amazing. The experience was so strong it brought tears to my eyes...
Wow
Wow
Wow
Wow....
Will post pictures soon...!
Love and light,
Dana
Wow
Wow
Wow
Wow....
Will post pictures soon...!
Love and light,
Dana
A GIRL!
At 1.35 pm, Mariel gave birth after a heroic labor period. She is so pretty!
Some minor stitches were done. But Mariel is well and the baby is now nursing.
WHAT A DAY! THE EXPERIENCE OF A LIFETIME!
Our midwife Diane Sjögren was so much of a help, she has helped 400 to 500 babies into the world and gave us patiently all needed support, advice and practical help.
A new life begins for us now...
:-)
At 1.35 pm, Mariel gave birth after a heroic labor period. She is so pretty!
Some minor stitches were done. But Mariel is well and the baby is now nursing.
WHAT A DAY! THE EXPERIENCE OF A LIFETIME!
Our midwife Diane Sjögren was so much of a help, she has helped 400 to 500 babies into the world and gave us patiently all needed support, advice and practical help.
A new life begins for us now...
:-)
11.20
I was awoken by Tara about ½hr ago. Had to drink a cup of coffee and now feel MUCH more focused and alert.
Mariel has thrown up after eating a bad nut. But the contractions have changed their character, much more endurable. She's even been laughing several times! Midwife says she's open 9 cm! Just 1 cm left. We've moved into the birthing room.... She is doing SOOO well!
Love love love
I was awoken by Tara about ½hr ago. Had to drink a cup of coffee and now feel MUCH more focused and alert.
Mariel has thrown up after eating a bad nut. But the contractions have changed their character, much more endurable. She's even been laughing several times! Midwife says she's open 9 cm! Just 1 cm left. We've moved into the birthing room.... She is doing SOOO well!
Love love love
tisdag 27 januari 2009
Mariel was in the bathtub 2 hrs at least... The contractions are still often but still a bit short, around 35-40 min.
The midwife has just arrived! She listens to the baby's heartbeat. all is well.
She just checked and M is 5-6 cm open now. 10 is the goal.
It is very intense for her, the labour pains...
The midwife has just arrived! She listens to the baby's heartbeat. all is well.
She just checked and M is 5-6 cm open now. 10 is the goal.
It is very intense for her, the labour pains...
Okay, everyboday! Now things are happening. Mariel woke me up 2.45 am (our time). The contractions have become regular. lasting 35 seconds each with a few minutes in between. I was so disoriented when she woke me that i didn't even recognize her!
Anyway, we called the midwife, she said to call back when the contractions have become close to a minute in length. Right now the intensity has diminished somewhat so i can write this.
Will try to keep you posted.
Love,
dana
Anyway, we called the midwife, she said to call back when the contractions have become close to a minute in length. Right now the intensity has diminished somewhat so i can write this.
Will try to keep you posted.
Love,
dana
Mariel just came back from a visit to the sauna.
She just told me that the mucous plug just came out.
That is one of the first signs of impending delivery, though for some mothers, it can still take some days...
I'm glad things are moving slowly, i then have a chance to get catch up to what's happening!
She just told me that the mucous plug just came out.
That is one of the first signs of impending delivery, though for some mothers, it can still take some days...
I'm glad things are moving slowly, i then have a chance to get catch up to what's happening!
Here is a picture of my darling during Christmas 2008 when we were visiting her folks upp in Dalarna, 2½ h NW of Stockholm.
A time of waiting...
Hi and welcome to our very very first blog!
This is dedicated to our first child who will be born any time now...
Mariel has completely exploded all ideas i have had about pregnant women.
She has taken the pregancy in stride and there has been such a flow in everything. No drama or complaining etc. She just radiates so much light and love and grace. I am amazed and floored...
But she eats like a horse! She eats loads and loads, probably 8-9 times a day. She is so cute when she comes over to my office every other hour, "Dana, are you hungry?" with a big grin... :-)
The expected due date was Jan 14th and we are now approaching two weeks over time. She has had mild contractions for a week and for the past few days, they have become more prominent.
Two nights ago, we both had difficulty sleeping, lots of tossing and turning. I started feeling angst about how life will be not getting enough sleep permanently... Just breathe and don't resist...
We went to our midwife yesterday and she said that the cervix is now gone and that the uterus was 2 cm open. For the child to be born the uterus must be around 10 cm (4") open.
Last night for the first time she experienced stronger more painful conctractions but they subsided when she went to bed and she got a good night's sleep. (Me, too!) :-)
Her sister Tara came here late last night in case. We want her to be present during the delivery as a doula ("A doula is an assistant who provides various forms of non-medical support (physical, emotional and informed choice) in the childbirth process." -Wikipedia)
Things are calm right now... Mariel went out for a walk and now she's resting.
This is dedicated to our first child who will be born any time now...
Mariel has completely exploded all ideas i have had about pregnant women.
She has taken the pregancy in stride and there has been such a flow in everything. No drama or complaining etc. She just radiates so much light and love and grace. I am amazed and floored...
But she eats like a horse! She eats loads and loads, probably 8-9 times a day. She is so cute when she comes over to my office every other hour, "Dana, are you hungry?" with a big grin... :-)
The expected due date was Jan 14th and we are now approaching two weeks over time. She has had mild contractions for a week and for the past few days, they have become more prominent.
Two nights ago, we both had difficulty sleeping, lots of tossing and turning. I started feeling angst about how life will be not getting enough sleep permanently... Just breathe and don't resist...
We went to our midwife yesterday and she said that the cervix is now gone and that the uterus was 2 cm open. For the child to be born the uterus must be around 10 cm (4") open.
Last night for the first time she experienced stronger more painful conctractions but they subsided when she went to bed and she got a good night's sleep. (Me, too!) :-)
Her sister Tara came here late last night in case. We want her to be present during the delivery as a doula ("A doula is an assistant who provides various forms of non-medical support (physical, emotional and informed choice) in the childbirth process." -Wikipedia)
Things are calm right now... Mariel went out for a walk and now she's resting.
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